Breaking the Cycle: Shield Bearer’s Guide to Preventing Teen Dating Violence
Teen dating violence is a growing concern in the United States, with one in three adolescents experiencing some form of dating abuse, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). To address this pressing issue, Shield Bearer Counseling Centers, a Houston-area nonprofit, is providing critical guidance on preventing teen dating violence and fostering healthy relationships.
The Hidden Crisis in Teen Relationships
Teen dating violence is often overlooked as a passing phase, but the consequences can be long-lasting. According to Thad Cardine, Executive Director of Shield Bearer, understanding teen dating violence starts with recognizing the patterns of control, manipulation, and emotional abuse that frequently precede physical violence.
“Many parents dismiss warning signs as normal teenage behavior,” Cardine explains. “But these early patterns of control—like excessive jealousy, monitoring a partner’s activities, or isolating them from friends—are red flags that should never be ignored.”
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Understanding the Cycle of Control
Teen dating violence often begins subtly. What may seem like deep affection can quickly spiral into an unhealthy pattern of control and emotional dependency. The CDC reports that teens in abusive relationships are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts—long-term effects that can follow them into adulthood.
Cardine describes the cycle of abuse through a common scenario: “A controlling partner might start by texting constantly, questioning their partner’s whereabouts, or criticizing their choices under the guise of ‘caring.’ Over time, these behaviors intensify, leading to emotional manipulation and, in some cases, physical harm.”
How Parents Can Help Prevent Teen Dating Violence
Shield Bearer emphasizes the crucial role that parents and guardians play in preventing teen dating violence. Creating open dialogue and modeling healthy relationships are foundational steps in teaching teens how to recognize respectful and supportive partnerships.
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“If we fail to teach our children what love truly looks like, society will fill that gap with toxic messages that normalize jealousy, control, and manipulation as ‘passion,’” Cardine warns. “We must actively show them that love is patient, kind, and built on mutual respect.”
Shield Bearer encourages parents to take proactive steps, including:
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Discussing healthy vs. unhealthy relationship behaviors
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Modeling respect and mutual support in their own relationships
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Helping teens set digital boundaries to prevent online manipulation
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Encouraging self-worth and confidence in young people
A Call to Action: Breaking the Cycle
As part of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, Shield Bearer is urging families, schools, and communities to take a stand against dating abuse. Their programs provide counseling, workshops, and educational resources to empower teens and their families with the tools they need to foster safe and respectful relationships.
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“The best way to prevent dating violence is through education and intervention,” says Cardine. “When we recognize the warning signs and equip teens with the confidence to set boundaries, we create a culture where respect and love thrive.”
Resources for Teens and Parents
For those affected by teen dating violence, help is available. Shield Bearer offers mental health support and counseling services, while national hotlines provide immediate assistance:
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National Domestic Violence Hotline: www.thehotline.org | Call: 800-799-7233 | Text: “START” to 88788
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Love Is Respect (Teen Dating Violence Resources): www.loveisrespect.org
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Shield Bearer Counseling Centers: www.shieldbearer.org | Call: 281-894-7222
By recognizing the warning signs and fostering conversations about healthy relationships, communities can work together to break the cycle of teen dating violence and create a safer future for young people.
Tiffany Krenek has been on the My Neighborhood News team since August 2021. She is passionate about curating and sharing content that enriches the lives of our readers in a personal, meaningful way. A loving mother and wife, Tiffany and her family live in the West Houston/Cypress region.
